The Essential Friendships for Chinese (Elementary)
Key Learning Points (preview): 1. 朋友 (Péngyou): friend
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2. 发小 (Fàxiǎo): a childhood friend
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3. 闺蜜 (Guīmì): a woman’s best female friend
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4. 死党 (Sǐdǎng): sworn followers
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5. 室友 (Shìyǒu): a roommate
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There is a Chinese saying: a sincere friendship is worth more than even the most valuable of treasures. (You might interested in Chinese culture, try our Chinese Culture Lessons!) People have many types of "朋友 (péngyou) friends": best friends, childhood friends, new friends, friends at work, girlfriends, boyfriends, and even long-lost friends. Some friends you might see every single day, and some you may only see occasionally. In Chinese, there are also many different types of friends, and today we're going to share a few of those types with you.
Fàxiǎo I 发 小
发小 (Fàxiǎo) is a childhood friend. You met this person when you were both young, and the friendship developed naturally. Some might say that this is the best type of friend to have. These days, many working people are tired of the complicated networks inside their company and like having a 发小 (fàxiǎo) to spend time with outside of work. This kind of friend knows your past and also probably understands you at a deeper level than others. It is a comfortable, safe relationship. Do you have a friend like this?
Example:
Wǒ hé Wáng Lì cóng xiǎo wán dào dà, tā shì wǒ de fàxiǎo. 我和王丽从小玩到大,她是我的发小。 Wang Li and I have grown up playing together. She is my childhood friend.
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Guīmì II 闺 蜜
This means girlfriend: a woman’s best female friend. Traditionally, "闺 (guī)" was the place where unmarried women lived, and "蜜 (mì)" literally means "honey." guīmì)" usually trust in each other and share secrets, talk about their happy and sad experiences, have similar interests and hobbies, and maybe even have similar tastes in men.
(Do You Have a Real Girlfriend or Boyfriend? If Not, Learn "单身狗 (dānshēnɡǒu) Single Dog" for You!) Example:
Wǒ de guīmì sòng wǒ yìtiáo wéijīn. 我的闺蜜送我一条围巾。 My best friend gave me a scarf.
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(2 Types of Friends You Should Have: “哥们儿 (Gēmen’r)” And “姐们儿 (Jiěmen’r)”) Example:
Lǐ Míng shì wǒ de sǐdǎng. 李明是我的死党。 Li Ming is my best friend.
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Wǒ de yí gè shìyǒu jīntiān jiéhūn. 我的一个室友今天结婚。 One of my roommates is getting married today.
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1. How does a female address her female best friend? ______
A. 兄弟 (Xiōngdì) B. 哥们儿 (Gēmenr) C. 闺蜜 (Guīmì)
A. 发小 (Fàxiǎo) B. 死党 (Sǐdǎng) C. 闺蜜 (Guīmì)
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General Chinese (Beginner Level)
I am Indian national male. I have Chinese female friend. We are good friend apart from business. I have my own family (Indian wife and kids) and she has her own Chinese boy friend.
What does this relationship call in Chinese.
Let me know.
Thanks
Kalpesh Mehta
India.
Dear e-ChineseLearning Team, Thank Yu for the Clarification of “Friendship”. A couple of questions did arise.
When should one use pengyou and genemr qing.88 from William
How do a male call female friend in Chinese ? Same way, how do a female call male friend in Chinese ? Both are just friend and not husband-wife and not business friend.
Let me know.
Thanks
Kalpesh Mehta from India,
Harbin
I want chines girl to make freindship I love china.
I wont chines girl to mkae sisterhood.
I love china.
Hi, the female is the “红颜知己 (hóngyán zhījǐ)” of the male, and the male is the “蓝颜知己 (lányán zhījǐ)” of the female in Chinese.
Hello Kalpesh Mehta, none of the four friendships we mentioned here is suitable to describe your relations. If you talk about anything and have a very intimate relation, then you are her 蓝颜知己(lan2yan2 zhi1ji3) in Chinese, and she is your 红颜知己 (hong2yan2 zhi1ji3). But if you are just common friend, then you are “好朋友 (hao3 peng2you)” in Chinese.